X PSA if you have a nasty, bi-phobic song please do not use it in the name of helping the gay community goodbye
hoW IS THIS BIPHOBIC?? THE SONG IS LITERALLY ABOUT BEING A BI FEMALE. BRENDON URIE IS BI (ARGUABLY). AS A BI MAN I AM CONFUSED. EXPLAIN.
it perpetuates negative stereotypes about bisexual people (bisexual women especially) and i don’t know where you got the idea that the song is about being a “bi female” like i guess that’s one way to interpret it but still perpetuates harmful stereotypes such as bi people just being confused and wishy washy (“a girl who can’t decide”)
also it doesn’t matter what sexuality brendon urie is it doesn’t change that the song is bi-phobic :(
*cracks my knuckles loudly and bisexually* Look, I am a trans* man. Pre-op, No binder, No Testosterone. I basically am a female in every aspect. (To be changed). I’m also bi. Now, I’m studying to be an English teacher, so I’m going to break the song down to my understanding of it.
"A Girl who can’t decide". Ah, but what come’s after that?
"And here’s the reason why: Girls love girls and boys"
he also says “Love is not a choice”
Brendon is putting down the stereotype. He’s saying “Oh, why can’t they “decide”? That’s because GIRLS CAN love GIRLS AND BOYS! It’s not a choice! You biphobic turd!”
When I said it was about being a bisexual female, what I meant was, Brendon’s kind of encouraging the girl to come out and admit she’s bi, to come out of the closet. Embrace it. “I don’t want to save your reputation”. The girl’s afraid of coming out, that people won’t accept her. But Brendon thinks that she should come out anyway. I mean, the song was influenced by his relationship with a bi woman (source below)
The rest is basically him being like “I don’t care that you’re bi and have a girlfriend I love you pls date me” (Which is silly, like #1 Brendon you’re married, #2 u might as well have called it “Girls/Girls/Friendzone”) But it’s a love song, kinda. That’s what they’re about.
And I think it does matter, his sexuality. I wouldn’t write a biphobic, racist, transphobic song? (Since i’m bi, mixed and trans*)? Would I? That wouldn’t make sense!
The song encouraged me to come out to my parents.. For what it’s worth.
Also, if Brendon Urie WAS biphobic, why would he do this? [x] And say this? [x]
"*cracks my knuckles loudly and bisexually*" that whole thing was beautiful
As a bi woman myself, I personally was not anywhere near offended by that song and totally understood that the song was exactly what antistump interpreted.
A New York City gallery has turned its cameras toward LGBTQ youth in the hopes it will help them finally find loving homes.
Heart Gallery NYC, a traveling exhibition of professional pictures taken by award-winning photographers of children in foster care looking for “forever families,” has set up in shop in Times Square, spotlighting LGBTQ young adults. The exhibition, which is the first of its kind, coincides with National Pride Month and will culminate at New York’s Pridefest on June 29.
why are straight allies so concerned about being confused as gay. it’s constantly like “well, as a straight ally…” or “i’m straight, not gay, not that there’s anything wrong with being gay!!” okay so then why are you so worried about people mistaking you as gay
The teachers’ union for my school has all these stickers and door tags and pencils and erasers with anti-homophobia stuff on them and the one is a rainbow sticker that says “Straight but not narrow”
Like?? Congrats?? You are attracted to people of another gender?? I don’t think it’s necessary for me to know you’re straight??
I’ve explained this before, but I’ll do it again:
Way back in the dim dark days of the 2000s, things looked really bad for equality. Like, really bad, frightening, terrifying in ways you can’t imagine and don’t want to if you’re 10 years younger than me. I legitimately thought I was going to have to run away from home and hide in Canada as an illegal immigrant because putting gay people into concentration camps was being bandied around as a totally sane, legal “solution” to those pesky people who wanted, I dunno, rights and stuff. ‘Murica.
In response to a jackass Presidential administration that wanted to make same-sex marriage constitutionally illegal (among other bullshit things), a lot of straight allies basically started going “listen, asshole, I’m straight and I think stuff like being able to get married and adopt when you’re gay does not negatively affect me, so stop being a jackass!" It was a weird form of solidarity where by stating that they were straight and supported GLBTQIA rights, they were increasing our visibility; it wasn’t just a few of Those People Not Like Us who wanted “special treatment,” it was People Just Like Us who were saying Those People deserved equal treatment.
We see where that’s gotten us in only ten years, of course! DOMA is in its death throes and DADT is a thing of the past. There are challenges to marriage inequality in every state. But with the history behind phrases like “straight, not narrow” forgotten so quickly, the phrases live uselessly on.
Don’t get mad that they’re still out there, educate on why they exist—lest we slip backward.
you know how everyone talks about how you’re supposed to ‘just know’ when someone is the right person for you? well i knew from the moment i got off the plane and saw allie for the first time that she was it for me. we both did. she’s everything i didn’t even know i wanted and so much more than i deserve. (she’s gonna hate me for being so sappy) she is my love.
i choose you.
me (left) - http://beautyinthe-chaos.tumblr.com
her (right) - http://chardonnaythroughtheday.tumblr.com
Being fathers is getting our daughters up at 5:30 am making breakfast getting them dressed for school and putting them on the bus by 6:30 .This is a typical day in our household . It’s not easy but we enjoy every moment and eveny minute of #fatherhood . #proudfathers#blackfathers#prouddads#gaydads
Okay I’m reblogging this again because I want to point out how beautiful this is and the sheer number of stereotypes it disproves. The stereotype that a gay couple cant be good parents. The stereotype that men know nothing about caring for girls’ hair. The stereotype that all gay men are feminine. The stereotype that black men abandon their children. The stereotype that people with a lot of tattoos aren’t caring. The stereotype that black people are too lazy to care about things like school- This picture is a beautiful thing and I love everything about it and it makes me regain confidence in the world we live in
You forgot one very important stereotype: that gay men are white.
This blows that nonsense outta the water. Right here. Right now.
I love seeing this one go by on my dash. For all the above reasons, and because it’s just so lazily domestically cute, and because, being a white woman, society basically tells me that these two are out to mug/rape me, and that’s all I need to know. IT’S SO MUCH BETTER KNOWING BETTER.
This post made me cry. It’s so beautiful in it’s ordinariness.